Everybody has a kink. If you don’t know what yours is, then you need to find it. Understanding and knowing what your kink is will make it easier for you to find pornographic content that interests you and sexual partners who share your sexual inclinations.
Finding one’s kink is easier said than done. There are literally hundreds of thousands of fetishes, sexual interests, and different categories of pornography. Because of this, it can be very difficult to find what interests you.
This post will offer six useful tips for finding your kink:
Kink-shaming
One thing that you need to avoid doing when you are searching for your kink is kink-shaming. It’s unfortunately common for people to suppress their sexual interests out of fear of being judged, or because they think that they aren’t ‘normal.’ Whatever you’re interested in, be it mature embrace it. Your kinks make up your sexual identity, which is an integral part of you. You needn’t be reluctant to embrace your sexual kinks, because most of the people in your life will never find out about them anyway. Only your sexual partners will learn about what gets you off. When you begin embracing your kinks, it’s highly likely that most of your sexual partners will share the same kinks as you anyway.
Exploration
A good way of finding out what your kinks are is to explore sexually. Thanks to the internet, sexual exploration has never been easier. All that you need to do is to log onto a site and look at the different categories and types of that are available there. Another very effective way of exploring your kinks is to sit down and have a long, hard think about all of your previous sexual encounters. If there are any specific encounters that turn you on just thinking about them, then there’s a strong indication that something took place during that encounter that is one of your kinks. Was there a particular attribute your sexual partner had (i.e., big breasts), or was there an activity that turned you on?
Trust
If you want to find out what your kinks are, then ask your partner to show you some of theirs. If you are going to ask a person to show their kinks to you, then there needs to be mutual trust. Your partner won’t want to show you their innermost kinks if you can’t be trusted to keep them a secret (and engage without judgment). If you have never discussed kinks with your partner before, then it’s highly likely that there are many that they have never expressed to you. If you are lucky you might find their kinks very erotic, and then make them your own.
Hook-ups
Another effective way of learning about (and finding) kinks is to have random hook-ups with strangers. A lot of people are reluctant to hook up with strangers, out of fear of sexually-transmitted diseases. As long as you wear protection and practice safe sex, then this isn’t something that you need to worry about. If you are going to be using dating sites to meet sexual partners, then you need to make sure that the people with whom you are meeting are who they say they are. It’s unfortunately common for people to lie about their identity on dating sites.
Judgment
When you are exploring your own kinks, you are bound to come across things that other people enjoy that don’t interest you. You need to view these things without judgment. A lot of people expect people not to judge their kinks but judge other people’s ones. Unless somebody is doing something that’s illegal, then you have no reason to have an opinion about what gets them off. The more accepting you are of other people’s kinks and sexual interests; the more accepting people will be of yours.
Respect
Another thing that you need to make sure that you do is to respect yourself. When you are exploring your kinks and sexual interests, you are bound to come across things that you find demeaning or degrading. Respecting yourself means saying no if something makes you uncomfortable and standing up for yourself. Don’t allow another person’s kinks to make you uncomfortable. While you should always respect others and be as judgment-free as you possibly can, you still need to respect yourself, and that means taking a stand when something’s making you feel uncomfortable or under pressure.
Finding your kinks will help you to form your sexual identity, which will help you to learn more about yourself as a person. Exploring one’s kinks can be very challenging, so incorporate the tips outlined in this post into your search.
